"Japanese girls love Western guys"

My last post made me remember that I wanted to write about this. I'm going to break my ideas up by 8 numbers to make it a quick read (hmm I like numbers). I also mean this about all foreigners in general, but some points are necessary for West/US in specific.

1) It's not true. Japanese girls don't like foreign guys. See #2.

2) It's really not true.

3) Yeah, you heard about the guy who had so much success with girls in Japan. He was probably telling the truth. But, see #4.

4) Japanese women at the present rate, 1% of them marry foreigners. Of that 1%, 25% or so marry Westerners. To do the math, (0.025%) that means that 1 out of 400 Japanese women marries a Westerner. The other 399 may have never even spoken to a foreigner in their lives, and would be afraid to. Is that what they meant?

5) Sure, marriage isn't everything. Lots of Japanese have tried dating a Western guy, right? Well, If 1 in 400 marries, how many of the remaining 399 tried dating a Westerner or went home with one after a night at the club? Not as many as it would seem, see #6.

6) If you are a Westerner and want to pick up women, can or can't speak Japanese, odds are you'll end up at one of the bars or clubs that cater to Westerners. In Tokyo, that would generally be either Roppongi or Shibuya maybe. All Japanese girls know this. If they want a Western guy (or free English lessons, just as likely!), they'll try hitting up the Western clubs. How many of _those_ girls are interested in Westerners? A good number sure, but they make up maybe 1 out of every 10,000 girls in Tokyo.

7) Sure, if a girl can get past her nervousness about dating an alien species, and gain enough confidence that language problems won't arise, maybe she'll be curious about dating a foreigner. In a purely victorian way, it's "trying something new" and when the cultural differences and language differences hit, she's going to re-intergrate back into Japanese society along with the other 398 girls per 1 that actually stays with the Westerner.

8) Sure, an average or even ugly Western guy can have better chances with girls than in his home country. Why ? First, A) look at #7. He's a new thing to try. B) Japanese can't tell ugly Westerners from good looking ones. It's true. They have their own set of measurements. Someone that is considered "gangly, oafy, spindly and malproportioned" in his country will be called "tall" here (as in tall, white and handsome). There are a number of traits they look for, but they don't look with Western eyes, so they simply can't tell the good from the bad as far as Western ideas of beauty go. C) They want to practice English, and the running idea/joke is having a Western boyfriend is the best way to do that. D) Westerners remind them of Hollywood - of stars, celebrities - that stuff is almost as big as Japanese movies, stars and celebrities if not bigger.

9) Odds are if you meet and date/marry a Japanese girl, she's going to have better English than your Japanese is. Why? She's lived outside the country, she's adapted to another culture, and odds are she's far more a cultural citizen of that other country than of Japan (i.e. not Japanese).

10) Did I say it was hopeless? No, no, no. Don't get me wrong. I'm just attacking what I quoted in the topic, "Japanese girls love Western guys." My statistics, while rounded, are from reliable sources (Government papers I've translated and the Hiragana Times news magazine), and my experience seems to prove valid.

It's a lie, but not plainly and simply. It's an uninformed mistruth.